I did it. I broke up with cosleeping. I just couldn’t take it anymore! I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE snuggling with Austin SO MUCH, but it was getting to difficult. My parents are reluctant to watch him in the evenings because no one but me can get him to go to sleep. He’ll be up at 9 or 10 o’clock when I get home because he just won’t go down. Plus, even though, like I said, I love the snuggles, I HAD to lay down with him every time I needed him to sleep. And while some times that is great to take that time with him and decompress a bit, sometimes it was a huge pain in the butt. And sometimes I just can’t stand his kicking me and fighting the sleep and pulling my hair and everything. It just gets a bit overwhelming some times. So I decided, it was time. If I ever want a chance at a social life, I MUST do this.
So, I brought out the pack and play.
The first night he cried. I stayed in their with him and sang and patted him until he fell asleep. He was in a new place, so I wanted him to go to sleep knowing he was okay. Then the next day at nap I sat with him for a little while and then left. It was daylight so he could see his surroundings and knew he wasn’t in a scary place. He cried a lot. I went in a couple times to check on him and kiss him. I never raised my voice, I was always really sweet and told him it was time for him to sleep in his big boy bed, I loved him, I was so proud of him. He was just really mad and upset. After doing this a couple times I sat there with him until he went to sleep. That night he went down a lot easier.
The next day? Went to sleep on his own and only cried a few minutes.
The day after that? Not a whimper. And he slept THROUGH THE NIGHT FOR THE FIRST TIME IN OVER 18 MONTHS.
It’s been amazing. He still nurses at night before bed so we have our cuddle time. we snuggle a bit, then I put him in the bed and give him kisses and sing his lullaby. He cried when I get up from the pack and play to the door, but as soon as I close the door he stops and goes to sleep.
Some nights he wakes up once around midnight and I just shhhhhhhh him and he goes back to sleep. He’ll wake up again between 3-6 and I put him in the bed with me and we snuggle until he’s ready to get up, which is never when *I* want to get up ;) Although last night I woke up at like 3 and he was in the bed with me. I’m sure I got him out of his bed, but I sure don’t remember it!
I cherish our cosleeping relationship, but I am glad it’s changed a bit. It was time for both of us. We still get our snuggles but now I have more time to get things done that I need to get done. And he’s learning to soothe himself a bit. He obviously has just been fighting sleep when I’m in the bed with him and has no problem going to sleep with out me.
Such a big boy! *tear*