I’ve noticed in this Similac debate that some breastfeeding moms feel like I am taking the “wrong side.” I could totally be paranoid and acting overly sensitive, which I’m prone to do
occasionally all the time. But in my deep desire to please everyone (IDK why I care…) I feel like I should offer this post as well.
I breastfeed. I love it. I think it’s what is best. Of course I think it’s better than anything else you could give your baby. That’s why I do it. If I thought formula was better I’d do that. If I thought disposables or elimination communication were better for our family than cloth, I would do either of those. If I thought chocolate was better than vanilla, I’d eat chocolate.
So with that in mind:
I am so so thankful I am breastfeeding.
It’s better for my baby, I don’t have to worry about stupid beetles, and I could just go about my merry way and ignore everything that’s happening around me.
But I can’t. Call it my already confessed need to please, but I can’t just walk away. Because people are rude.
If you have chosen formula and you are happy with your decision, then no amount of pro-breastfeeding talk *should* bother you. I get that. But it’s so much easier said than done. I feel attacked when rude comments are made because of this recall. Because I can’t imagine how the preemie mommies in the NICU are feeling about their preemies being fed milk fortifier MIXED WITH their breastmilk. Yes I am confident in my decision, but that doesn’t mean that rude comments don’t sting.
And when I talked about sancti-mommies with this Similac Recall, I wasn’t talking about the moms that said “I am so thankful I’m breastfeeding.” I was talking about the moms that said “No beetles come out of my nipples” or “my daughter has NEVER had formula EVER. I can’t believe anyone is justifying formula!” Really? Like a fellow twittered said the other night; Your high horse? Is ugly.
Breastfeeding mothers have also been complaining about the fact that we are expected to feel bad for formula feeding mothers, but that formula feeding mothers never ever support breastfeeding mothers. Breastfeeding mothers are sitting here saying if you feed formula you should be confident in your decision and never feel guilty, and so should we. We know that breastmilk is best and we’re super blessed that it has worked for our babies and our families.
I just don’t see a point in sitting her choosing to be “indifferent” or rude toward the formula feeding mothers. Is breastfeeding supported as much throughout the country? No. No mother has ever been forced to feed their baby a bottle in a bathroom or in a car. Because for some sick reason, breastfeeding is not considered the norm. But instead of being rude about it, why don’t we just be the bigger person and get behind formula feeding moms? Because when we sit back and point and say mean things it makes our stance a lot less attractive.
Breastfeeding is such an intimate close bonding experience with our babies. When I see photos of breastfeeding mothers, I instantly feel warm, happy, secure, and content. Instead of acting like we’re better than anyone else, let’s try to outreach those feelings toward other mothers so that they’ll want to “join” us. I’m a grown up now, and wanting to join the cool club full of mean girls was something I wanted in high school, but not anymore. Ugly ain’t pretty. Let’s make sure breastfeeding is being portrayed the way it truly is; fabulous.
Basically, what I guess I didn’t convey very well yesterday is, saying “thank God we’re breastfeeding!” obviously isn’t bad. Saying “formula feeders deserve this!” is just plain wrong.
I write these posts because I love my breastfeeding friends. I love my formula feeding friends. I don’t like to see anyone sad. It’s a curse.